Sometimes you don’t realise how traumatic something is until you start telling someone else and you see the shock on their face. Sometimes we normalise deeply traumatic events to survive them. We make excuses or pretend it wasn’t that bad …
The Nervous System of a Woman Who Grew Up Without Emotional Support
Too many women grow up without the emotional care they need. Maybe your parents were physically present, put food on the table, and kept a roof over your head, but they weren’t emotionally attuned. Perhaps your distress was ignored, minimised, …
Good People Exist — Let Yourself Believe It
No one tells you how hard it is to rewire your brain to allow amazing things to happen after experiencing trauma or pain. Blessings exist, good people exist, and a softer life exists. Let it happen. — Layla Laurent Good …
The Avoidant-Anxious Cycle: Understanding the Pattern That Keeps Couples Stuck
This is a dynamic I see so often in my work with couples. Over time, one partner begins to withdraw emotionally. Communication reduces, responsiveness drops, and there’s a subtle — or sometimes not so subtle — pulling away. Less sharing. …
Be Gentle With Your Protective Patterns
Be gentle with your protective patterns. They developed at a time when they were needed. Anger can be damaging — and it can be protective. Avoidance can hold you back — and it can be protective. Overthinking can be frustrating …
The Pain in My Hips Wouldn’t Go Away — Until I Stopped Trying to Fix My Body
It started back in Australia. I thought, “I’m just sitting too much.” So I walked every day. Did hip-opening yoga. Tried to fix it physically. But when I got to India… it got worse. Yesterday, I couldn’t get comfortable at …
Why Trauma Makes You Feel Like You Have to Understand Everything to Stay Safe
When you grow up or live through experiences where things felt unpredictable or unsafe, your nervous system learns a very specific survival strategy. It teaches you that understanding everything is the only way to stay safe. Trauma doesn’t just change …
Presence Is Love in Action: The Power of Deep Listening in Relationships
Next time your partner is hurting — listen. When they show emotion — say, “tell me more.” When they offer feedback — lean in with curiosity. When they reach for you — be there. Because presence is love in action. …
The Real Test of Spiritual Evolution
“It’s easy to appear spiritually evolved while drinking Ayahuasca or reciting scriptures. The real test is who you are in traffic, when you come across someone with an opposing view, or when your food’s late.” — Vex King Spirituality is …
Catching the Hiking Bug: 42 km on the Gidjuum Gulganyi Walk
42 km. 4 days. 3 nights. The Gidjuum Gulganyi walk in Australia, carrying everything we needed on our backs. What an adventure! To be honest, I thought I might struggle. And it wasn’t easy. But once you’re out there, there’s …