As a therapist, I feel your wins. Whether it’s setting a boundary, pausing to feel somthing big that you might have glossed over, or just getting through a hard day. So proud of every quiet, powerful step you’re taking. Love, …
Deep Emotional Needs of the Avoidantly Attached
On the surface, avoidant behaviour can look like disinterest, withdrawal, or emotional distance.But underneath… it’s often a different story. Avoidantly attached people do have deep emotional needs—just like everyone else.They’ve just learned, often very early in life, that expressing those …
We Aren’t Responsible for Other People’s Emotions
You don’t get to hurt someone and walk away with clean hands.Love means repair.Love means care.Love means being a fierce protector of your partner’s heart, even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard. Let’s raise the standard for what emotional …
What Avoidants Really Need From You
While avoidantly attached individuals may appear self-sufficient and distant, they harbour deep emotional needs that they often find challenging to express. In this episode, Jen explores: Enjoy the episode – I loved writing and recording it!
Family Dysfunction
New eyes see old patterns.When someone new joins a family—like a daughter- or son-in-law—they often spot the dysfunction that others have learned to ignore, minimise, or normalise. It doesn’t mean they’re causing it. It means they’re not afraid to name …
How Does Healing The Past Help in the Present?
The past affects the present in many ways. It might be how you expect your partner to take out the garbage or how you expect to be responded to when you ask for help. There are lots of reasons that …
Ask Yourself, Does This Belong To Me
Sending love to your ancestors and you. May you feel the gifts of your ancestors. Love, Jen
Ask Yourself, Does This *Anger / Pain / Grief* Belong To Me?
For me, it was anxiety. I always felt a low level of anxiety in the background and wondered where it had come from. As an adult, I could see that same anxiety in my parents. It was their anxiety, and …