A few years ago, I watched my kids as toddlers start to distinguish between the bodily felt sense of ‘I’m hungry, and I’m sleepy’. It made me smile to see my daughter fast asleep with a sandwich literally hanging out …
Category: Relationships
The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic – Can it work?
This is one of the main dynamics that brings couples into therapy. It is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle. So, what exactly is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle, how does it work, and how do we perpetuate it? We also tackle the big question: …
9 Signs You Grew Up Chronically Lonely
Ongoing loneliness as a child impacts us in many different ways as adults. How has this impacted you? Let me know in the comments.
I’m Trying To Make Them Understand
Have you ever found yourself repeating yourself and trying to say the same thing in a hundred different ways to be understood? I know I have.
Couples and Isolation
There has never been so much pressure placed on the couple. We are supposed to be one another’s confidant, best friend, lover, the person we share all our chores with, work out our finances with, and share child rearing with. …
D Schwartz Quote
This is how you can make a relationship conscious. When you use the pain, you trigger one another as a guide inward. Rather than blame each other, you meet your pain with curiosity. You turn inward and get curious about …
How To Spot Attracting Unavailable Men
Being in a cycle of attracting avoidant or unavailable people is painful. Over time, it affects your self-esteem and can make you feel like you are going crazy. In this episode, Jen gives you three steps on how to break …
Six Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet ANOTHER unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Maybe he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his work, mother or …
Falling For Someone’s Potential
When you are with someone because you see their potential, you are busy working on a project. Not accepting them for who they are. If who they are is not what you are looking for, then why are you still …
Doing The Work
If you are deeply engaged in doing the work, you deserve to be with someone who is on a healing journey with you. Drop me a comment if you agree.