You suspect (or have been told by your partner) that you are dating someone who is anxiously attached. You are growing in love with them and want to be close to them, but it feels difficult. You wonder if there …
Category: Relationships
“Heal Your Anxious Attachment” Lands February 2024.
I wrote it to help people. Plain and simple. It is so much easier to have someone who has done the research and tried and tested what works. “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” is a journey of healing, of coming home …
Why did I write “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”?
Because you asked for it. About two years ago, I went through a phase where I was posting a lot about attachment styles. I was asked repeatedly, “Is there a book you can recommend about healing from it?” So, like …
When the Freeze Response is Chronic, It Is Related to Depression.
Your automatic response in any stressful situation will be the one that your autonomic nervous system found most effective in the past. The freeze response takes over when we cannot fight or run away from the situation and it is …
Triggers Unpacked
“A trigger is when something happens and we have an emotional reaction that seems stronger than the situation calls for. Something has happened that has caused your internal alarm system to go off. This is a moment to be curious …
My New Book; Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment is a healthy adaptation. All behaviour, when viewed through the lens of your history, makes sense. Always. As children, when met with inconsistency in our caregivers are faced with two choices. Either stay close to the carer and …
Episode 23: 7 Tips for Dating For The Anxiously Attached
When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment …
Conflict in Relationships
FREE Track YOUR negative Cycle. I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This frustrating cycle usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can …
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Consistency In Relationships
Consistency in relationships is underrated. It is one of the most significant factors that creates real and felt safety in a relationship. We need safety to move into deeper intimacy. Inconsistency might look like: Notice how you respond to inconsistency. …