“Have you ever met someone who mirrors all the good things you like about yourself: the same values, interests, thoughts, or feelings? You instantly hit it off, becoming best of friends. If so, you may have met your kindred spirit. …
Category: Relationships
3 Fears of the Anxiously Attached
All of these fears come from somewhere. Fear of abandonment: When do you remember people not being there for you the way you needed them to be? Fear of not being good enough: Where did you learn that your needs …
3 Fears of the Anxiously Attached
Remember that anxious attachment is a strategy you have learnt to maintain closeness with your special person. These fears can all be addressed by building internal and external secure attachment.
Common Mistakes when Anxiously Attached
Many individuals with anxious attachment mistakenly equate the rollercoaster of intense emotional highs and lows with the depth and intensity of love, perceiving these turbulent experiences as signs of a passionate relationship. This confusion can lead to a blurred line …
The Mindset of Secure Attachment
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You Are Important
As a trauma therapist, I’ve heard numerous stories about the messages people received in childhood that made them feel unimportant. Whether it was a sibling who demanded all of your parents’ time and energy, leaving little for you, or parents …
Earned Secure attachment
What is Earned Secure Attachment? Earned secure attachment is when someone develops secure, healthy relationship patterns in adulthood despite having experienced insecure attachments in their early years. How do you know if you have Earned Secure Attachment? When you have …
Dr Alexandra Quote
When you have been betrayed, you have a natural scar from that experience. Many people would call that experience traumatic. It is traumatic because your person, who is supposed to have your back and be one of your best friends, …
Healing Birth Trauma
I was so moved by how many of you shared your stories of traumatic births with me earlier in the week. Birth trauma might sound like this: I wish we were talking about this more. So – how do we …