“A trigger is when something happens and we have an emotional reaction that seems stronger than the situation calls for. Something has happened that has caused your internal alarm system to go off. This is a moment to be curious …
Category: Relationships
My New Book; Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment is a healthy adaptation. All behaviour, when viewed through the lens of your history, makes sense. Always. As children, when met with inconsistency in our caregivers are faced with two choices. Either stay close to the carer and …
Episode 23: 7 Tips for Dating For The Anxiously Attached
When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment …
Conflict in Relationships
FREE Track YOUR negative Cycle. I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This frustrating cycle usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can …
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Consistency In Relationships
Consistency in relationships is underrated. It is one of the most significant factors that creates real and felt safety in a relationship. We need safety to move into deeper intimacy. Inconsistency might look like: Notice how you respond to inconsistency. …
Heal Your Anxious Attachment: Pre Order Now
The book is finished after a year of writing it. The cover is designed, the typesetting has been done, and I have the final galley (as they say in publishing). So what’s next? Take it to India to receive the …
On Your Side
Of course, there are times to argue, stand your ground and debate, but when something is really important to your partner, sometimes you need to have their back.
What I Learnt From Fasting
Two flights and 22 hours later, I’m back in my spiritual home, India. When I come to India, I come to a large Temple complex where people practise mantra and pooja for about 19 hours daily. Today, I fasted for …
What’s Important to Your Partner
Know what is important to your partner and make it important to you, too.I’m not talking about what kind of food they like, I’m talking about the big things, the things that your partner feels passionate about.If they feel passionate …