Children need all five love languages. As a parent you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. I love words of affirmation and physical touch, so …
Tag: Self-care
What is Your Self-Love Language?
When we give love to ourselves abundantly, it is easier to give love in all its forms to others.So, why do we struggle to show love to ourselves? Some of us were taught that it is ‘good’ to put ourselves …
How do I Protect Myself as a Therapist
Do we need protecting from people? Sometimes, I think the answer is definitely yes, and sometimes not. Do I need to protect myself as a therapist? I like to think about this in terms of protective factors. I have been …
Affirmations to Help You Heal After a Breakup
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult and painful times. There can be such an overwhelming feeling of disappointment, going over moments and scenes in your head, wondering if you could / should have been different. …
How To Emotionally Prepare For The Election
This is big. I have a number of clients, friends and family in the US who have needed to spend time debriefing their mixed emotions about the impending US election. It is NORMAL to feel confusion, greif and despair. It …
Why Do You Avoid Being Assertive?
There are many reasons people avoid being assertive. I find the two biggest reasons are: ‘The other person will be upset’ (conflict avoidance) and ‘I have no idea how to do it’. Let’s take ‘The other person will be upset’ …
Taking Time Out In Relationships
There have been times in my life where I have taken breaks from certain people. When a relationship is going through a particularly triggering or intense time, self-care is vital. I have had many clients who have found it beneficial …
Why Aligning with Your Values Makes Your Boundaries Clearer
One of the best ways to be clear about your boundaries is to align them with your values. What are values? Values are principles that you feel deeply aligned with. Some examples of values are: authenticity, adventure, community, fun, knowledge, …
How to Identify Your Boundaries
Get into the habit of checking in with yourself regularly When we have grown up in a chaotic environment, we have learned to close down in different ways to stay safe. If there were few healthy boundaries growing up, it …
Why We Need To Set Boundaries
We need boundaries so we can be clear about what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in our relationships. When we have healthy boundaries, they should provide a framework for relationships that are mutually loving, respectful and appropriate. Healthy …