I’m guilty of worrying about my kids. In Western culture, worrying about our kids is part of the norm. But when does worry become too much? It’s too much when it feels overwhelming and all-consuming, when you can’t focus on …
Tag: Relationships
Trauma Treatment Collective Podcast
This was a wonderful conversation with Nina, another incredible therapist with a focus on trauma and healing. If you have some time, check out our conversation: Love Jen x
Book Review
Anyone who has ever written a book will know it is nerve-wracking as the reviews come in, so it is lovely to hear how it this book has impacted people. Thank you for your kind words. Shining love out there …
6 Reasons You’re Attracted to Avoidant People
You’re probably reading this because you are frustrated at yourself for choosing another unavailable partner. Maybe he is married, or he lives in another state or country. Perhaps he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his …
Why Avoidantly Attached People Withdraw
Ever notice how some people just shut down during conflicts? When Avoidantly Attached People feel threatened, they WITHDRAW to feel SAFE. Your nervous system tends to rest more in hyperarousal; it’s like your body’s way of shutting down when overwhelmed. …
Ever Find Yourself Agreeing To Keep The Peace
If you find yourself appeasing your partner over and over again you risk growing resentment in the relationship. Instead of agreeing with everything, try these steps: Have a great week, Big hugs, Jen
Overworking to Avoid Emotions
Do you bury yourself in work when things get tough? You OVERWORK when you feel threatened to feel SAFE. Work gives you a sense of accomplishment and predictability, unlike relationships. You feel more confident at work than dealing with intense …
An Intimacy Killer for the Avoiantly Attached
Ever find yourself in a heated argument, and suddenly you switch into ‘logic mode’? When avoidantly attached people feel threatened, they often get all LOGICAL to feel SAFE. When you become logical, you feel your body less. This helps you …
Understanding Insecure Attachment: Signs and Solutions
Healing is a journey, and it’s never too late to start.
Why Anxiously Attached People Get Loud to Feel Safe
Getting louder is a common strategy for those with an anxious attachment style. It’s a way to seek attention, to be noticed, and to feel a sense of connection. If this sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone. Many of …