How do you let your children know you love them? I ask! I ask if they feel loved. I say, “if you were to feel a little bit more loved by me today, what would happen, or what would I …
Tag: Relationships
The SUBMIT Response
We can only begin to heal from the ‘submit’ response when we are out of the abusive environment that caused it. Safety is the main priority, and if we are not safe, our nervous system is not safe to relax …
10 Ways the FAWN Response Might Show up in Relationships
The Fawn response can be exhausting. We can use up a lot of energy trying to stay connected to feel safe in the relationship. Sometimes to our detriment. It can be challenging to get enough objectivity to make a rational …
Complex PTSD Explained
What you need to know about Complex PTSD. Did you know that Complex PTSD is often misdiagnosed as PTSD or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? CPTSD develops when there has been neglect, abuse, severe bullying or torture. When there is exposure …
My Journey:
Hello to all of you who are new here! Thank you, thank you for being here and being on this journey of self-healing with me. Sometimes when we are the only ones in a family on the journey, finding your …
How the Flight Trauma Response Can Show Up In An Argument
When we are in conflict, it is easy to be triggered into an automatic trauma response. Why? Maybe our partner is triggering a flashback to an old situation Maybe their tone of voice feels threatening Maybe the way they gestured …
I Stay Too Long In The Wrong Relationships
Most of us have been conditioned to ignore or block out our feelings and our bodies. Part of finding our way back to health and wholeness is through reconnecting with our thoughts and feelings in a healthy way. We can …
When you are a Cycle Breaker…
The more Cycle Breakers I meet, the more I hear this story. This feeling of not really belonging to your family of origin, of feeling innately different, like you are a completely different species. For a while, this often causes …
You are all Star Dust
There is something about this idea that gives me relief. To know that you and I are made up of the same cosmic matter. That the elements that make up your body: Oxygen 65% Carbon 18.5% Hydrogen 9.5% Nitrogen 3.2% …
Family Systems
How did you manage this process or are you still in the thick of it?Were you given space to explore your identity?Let me know in the comments