Have you ever found yourself in a toxic triad? I know I have. Some triangles are healthy and helpful, for example, when work colleagues struggling with a piece of work approach their boss for some help, or when two quarreling …
Tag: Relationships
The Effects of Drawing Children into Adult Conflicts
One of the most common examples of this is during a divorce. Both parents are vying for the emotional support of the children. They are consciously manipulating the children to align with them. This might take the form of comments …
What is Parentification?
Not everyone who experiences parentification also experiences negative effects as adults. However, some of the things you may experience are a loss of a sense of playfulness and a feeling of not having had a fun childhood. There is often …
7 Communication Skills That Will Change Your Relationship
๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐ฏ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ญ๐๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐๐ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐: โ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ ๐๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฌ๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฐ๐๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ, ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฆ๐๐ค๐๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐๐ง๐ฌ๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฌ๐๐ญ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ.โโฃ โฃ I canโt overemphasise how healing it is to hear, โthe way you …
What is Reparenting?
When we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence as children, as adults, there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn that love looks and feels like conflict, …
A Personal Post for Father’s Day
Seven years ago, my father died at 91 years old. I had the opportunity to be with him for about four weeks before he passed. As he lay in his bed, getting weaker and weaker and having a dose of …
Validation
The inner child needs to be validated. They need to have THEIR version of reality validated by you. Suppose your inner child has been told for years that she is โtoo sensitiveโ to all the fighting that went on in …
Getting to Know Your Inner Child
When I first met my inner child doing an inner child meditation similar to the one in the โMeet your Inner Childโ short course, she was about 16, sitting on a wall, wearing knee-length leather boots, smoking a cigarette with …
Reconnection to the Inner Child
Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is, see something new, and explore its taste, feel …