“As a therapist, I’ve noticed that people who grew up in families where no one apologized after disagreements and just let time pass often carry that experience into adulthood in unexpected ways. When conflict is ignored instead of addressed, it …
Tag: Relationships
Don’t Wait 6 Years to Save Your Relationship
As a couple therapist, I see many couples waiting too long to get help. On average, most struggling couples wait about 6 years before seeking couple therapy. This allows patterns of conflict, resentment, or emotional disconnection to become deeply ingrained.
Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens
Do you notice these parts showing up in your relationships? Save this reel and check out the link in my bio on Instagram, ‘ATTACHMENT’ to learn more about healing protest behaviours. Wherever you are, take care today and be kind …
When You Protest – For The Anxiously Attached
Have you ever judged yourself for these reactions? I know I have.
Power Dynamics in Intimate Relationships
Power dynamics are an invisible force shaping every relationship. They determine who speaks up, who stays silent, and whose needs are prioritized. Unhealthy power dynamics can show up as one partner consistently having more control—whether it’s emotional, financial, or decision-making …
What Is Insecure Attachment?
Attachment patterns are patterns of love. They ask if we can trust others to love us in the way we need. If you want to know more, check out my highlight ‘ATTACHMENT’. Love, Jen
What is Insecure Attachment?
Healing insecure attachment is a journey, but it’s possible with support. So much love on your healing journey, Jen
Family Secrets
Family secrets and discussing each other in secret can weigh heavily on individuals and a family.Many people will find some support helpful in gaining perspective and navigating these intense families. If this is you, reach out to a good therapist.Our …
What’s Not Co-Regulation
Understanding what co-regulation IS and ISN’T can transform your relationships! It’s not about mirroring someone’s panic or distress—it’s about maintaining calm and helping others find their way back to a place of peace. In Chapter 6 of my book ‘Heal …
Tips for Co-Regulation
Experiencing this kind of love in a relationship is deeply healing. It has the power to change an insecure attachment style to a secure one. Over time, you will learn to self-regulate and fill in the developmental gap you missed. …