Generational patterns repeat through a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role. It is often not chosen by the person concerned. It is a deep …
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How to Identify YOUR Primary Love Language
A few people have asked me how to discover their primary love language. A lot of people read through the list and think “I love ALL of those!”, why do I just need to choose one or two? In a …
What Kind of Relationship Struggles Are You Facing During the Pandemic
Here is a list of everything you shared with me in the last 24 hours when I asked, ‘what kind of relationship struggles are you facing during the pandemic?’ A few of them showed up again and again; missing physical …
Wanting to Receive Gifts as a Love Language is not Superficial and Materialistic
I have had a lot of questions over the last few days about wanting to receive gifts as a love language. Some people have commented that they feel superficial and materialistic when they express their love language of gift giving. …
When You Don’t Speak Your Partner’s Love Language And It Feels Like An Effort
Maybe your partner wants acts of service. They have told you numerous times that acts of service makes them feel loved, but you find it difficult to give. It is just not something you do to show love. Maybe your …
Are Your Love Languages What You DIDN’T Receive From One Parent?
60% of you said that your love language was what you DIDN’T receive from your parents as a child (from 120 people on Instagram). I form part of the 40% who said it IS what they received as a child. …
Blocks to Receiving the Five Love Languages
Uncovering your own unconscious blocks to receiving love. Once we know what our love languages are, it is interesting to think about the extent to which we allow love in. For example, we might crave words of affirmation, but when …
Attuning for Trust
When we are in long distance relationships, the need to attune to one another is even greater. Dr Gottman has a fabulous acronym to remember in all relationships. Often, we have awareness, the first step, but we can struggle with …
Love Language Ideas for Long Distance Couples
Many of you have asked about long-distance relationships, and given the global situation this year, many couples have been separated and actively trying to show love across huge distances. My heart goes out you. I really can’t imagine what it …
What is YOUR Word for 2021
Rather than write a list of intentions for the New Year, I prefer to have a ‘word for the year’ that I can keep referring to. I can refer to it when I am making decisions, and occasionally review the …