If you were a parentified child, it is likely that caregiving is simultaneously fulfilling AND exhausting. Why? As a parentified child one of the ways you got love and acceptance was through caring for your siblings and / or parents. …
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Breaking The Cycle Of Parentification
When we take on adult roles, whether physically or emotionally, we lose out on part of our childhood and we can lose connection with the playful, joy filled part of ourselves. It IS possible to reconnect with this part of …
How To Recognise Parentification
Parentification has been referred to as an INVISIBLE childhood trauma. One study of 783 university students into the links between parentification and later adult wellness showed those who experienced parentification to have an increased risk of depression, anxiety, eating disorders …
Why Would A Child Take On The Role Of Parent?
As I mentioned in the last post about parentification, there are two types of parentification: ???????????????????????????????????? ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? – Acting as a friend and confidant to a parent, becoming the peacemaker, emotionally supporting the family. I???????????????????????????????????????????? ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? – helping the family with physical tasks such …
Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
1 IN 4 AUSTRALIAN ADULTS HAVE COMPLEX TRAUMA. Complex trauma is different to single incident trauma. Someone who experiences single incident trauma and has to recover, is working on reconnecting with their internal resources and past ability to self-regulate. Someone …
How To Be With Suffering
Have you ever been in distress and the person you share your distress with also becomes distressed and you end up wishing you had not said anything? I think there is an art to being with suffering. I think it …
The Positive Seeds
Thich Nhat Hanh – No Mud, no Lotus. Most spiritual teachers, if you listen long enough, will start to talk about the mind as having ‘seeds’. All the ‘seeds’ in the mind have a different vibration to them. There might …
Letting Go
Thich Nhat Hanh – No Mud, no Lotus. Letting go is Thich Nhat Hanh’s first principle for transforming suffering. Letting go of attachments. He tells a story of a wealthy person who lived in a mansion and was afraid behind …
Why Do I Feel Anxiety?
Feelings want to be understood and be in connection, when we stuff them down, that’s when problems arise, and we get surprised. We can get really creative about HOW we stuff them down. I might be overeating, overworking, or causing …
What To Say To Someone With Anxiety
It is easy to think that when speaking to someone with anxiety, the best thing to do is to empathise. That might sound like, ‘I know how you are feeling, I get anxious before interviews.’ For someone with an anxiety …