To be a cycle breaker there has to be a certain kind of waking up to the dysfunctional family patterns. This usually happens over a period of time, but it can also happen over-night, leaving you feeling completely disorientated and …
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How to Respond to Shaming Comments as a Cycle Breaker
As a cycle breaker it is important to understand that most of the resistance to you being different and wanting to break away from the family is based in FEAR. The underlying habit for many family systems is to shame …
How Cycle Breakers are Shamed in their Family
Being a cycle breaker is often exhausting because it takes energy to stand up and do something different to what has always been done in the family. You might notice ‘looks’ being passed between members, or eye rolling as you …
How to Identify YOUR Primary Love Language
A few people have asked me how to discover their primary love language. A lot of people read through the list and think “I love ALL of those!”, why do I just need to choose one or two? In a …
What Kind of Relationship Struggles Are You Facing During the Pandemic
Here is a list of everything you shared with me in the last 24 hours when I asked, ‘what kind of relationship struggles are you facing during the pandemic?’ A few of them showed up again and again; missing physical …
Wanting to Receive Gifts as a Love Language is not Superficial and Materialistic
I have had a lot of questions over the last few days about wanting to receive gifts as a love language. Some people have commented that they feel superficial and materialistic when they express their love language of gift giving. …
When You Don’t Speak Your Partner’s Love Language And It Feels Like An Effort
Maybe your partner wants acts of service. They have told you numerous times that acts of service makes them feel loved, but you find it difficult to give. It is just not something you do to show love. Maybe your …
Attuning for Trust
When we are in long distance relationships, the need to attune to one another is even greater. Dr Gottman has a fabulous acronym to remember in all relationships. Often, we have awareness, the first step, but we can struggle with …
How to Speak your Child’s Love Language
Children need all five love languages. As a parent you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. I love words of affirmation and physical touch, so …
What is Your Self-Love Language?
When we give love to ourselves abundantly, it is easier to give love in all its forms to others.So, why do we struggle to show love to ourselves? Some of us were taught that it is ‘good’ to put ourselves …