Some questions to ponder: Where am I deeply passionate about something in my life? What might self-actualisation in this area look like for me? What can I do daily to live more of that future self in my life? If …
Tag: healing journey
Consequences of Comparison
Let’s first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, and hopeful, as though anything is possible. When we are comparing ourselves to someone, there is a one …
Dark Night of the Soul
My Dark Night of the Soul happened in my mid 20’s, when I was forced to re-evaluate the core of my beliefs about the world, about society and who I was. I was also going through a values-based inner conflict …
Tips for Cycle Breakers
For all the cycle breakers out there, this is for you. When you feel like you don’t belong in your family or you just feel somehow different, know that you are not alone. It’s okay to see patterns in your …
Conflict in Relationships
Can you talk things through without one of you storming out? Can you communicate without shouting? Do you feel safe in the conflict? If not, do you feel unsafe physically? Why? Are you being threatened? Do they go to hit …
Feeling Unheard
I thought point 1 in yesterday’s post, ‘unrealistic relationship expectations: my partner should be able to read my mind’, was worth unpacking. It is often the case that we think we are making our needs clear when our partner has …
When We Are Afraid of Really ‘Showing Up’ We Run The Risk of Gaslighting the Other Person
Let me give you an example. Some of the parenting I had growing up was quite sharp and stern. Rules were not made to be broken, they were made to be followed, and there were consequences when they were not …
Supporting a Cycle Breaker
Thank you for telling us how you feel. These are all from YOU—every one of them. When I asked in my stories what you would like to have heard instead of your friends and family’s shaming, the response was overwhelming. …
Not Everyone Has The Capacity to Show Up For You
Tough question:When you are feeling let down by someone, ask yourself this question, ‘do they have the capacity to show up for me in the way I need?’ If the answer is ‘no’, they can’t show up for me in …