A friend of mine was labelled the scapegoat in her family. She was repeatedly told that she was too volatile and ‘crazy.’ She was a scapegoat for everything, including things that had absolutely nothing to do with her. It took …
Tag: Family
Identifying Triangulation
Have you ever found yourself in a toxic triad? I know I have. Some triangles are healthy and helpful, for example, when work colleagues struggling with a piece of work approach their boss for some help, or when two quarreling …
Adventures in Israel
From the UK to Israel! It’s been about 16 years since I was in Israel. I didn’t spend much time in Tel Aviv the first time.Here are some things to know about Tel Aviv… the sand on the beach is …
Adventures in the UK
We had such an amazing time in the UK spending time with my mum & friends & family. We packed in lots of awesome adventures. A trip to Stoke Bruerne near where I grew up, Althorpe House (where Princess Diana …
We Leave Tomorrow
Like so many people who haven’t seen their family in years, I haven’t seen my mum in two and a half years. She lives in the UK and I live in Australia, on the opposite side of the world. We …
A Personal Post for Father’s Day
Seven years ago, my father died at 91 years old. I had the opportunity to be with him for about four weeks before he passed. As he lay in his bed, getting weaker and weaker and having a dose of …
The Unavailable Father
So much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and attachment with the mother. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological …
A Powerful Quite From Steve Biddulph
When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …
Connect with your Ancestral Strengths
When we look back at our ancestors, we can often find surprising, hidden strengths and things that connect us to our sense of belonging. Ever since I was little, I have been desperate to see the world, to travel. I …
How Trauma is Transmitted Intergenerationally
Intergeneratioanl trauma is real. Check out this paper “Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms” by Yehuda & Lehrner (2018) for some fantastic research-based insights. Imagine a child growing up in a household with an alcoholic mother. …