Has anyone here run away from your family of origin, only to find the same dynamics being played out at work? For many people, the answer is YES!!! Why is that? In my view, this is our psyche trying to …
Tag: family dynamics
What If It Was Never Your Fault
We can hold our parents’ capacity and history in mind and still wish that our childhood had been different. It’s okay to feel grief for your childhood and be grateful for certain aspects of it. The healing process is often …
Cycle Breakers Will Often Feel Out Of Place In Their Family
Cycle breakers will often feel out of place in their family. That’s tough because it leaves you feeling isolated. But you just can’t tow the family line anymore. You can’t listen to any more suggestions that there is something wrong …
Are You a Cycle Breaker?
As a cycle breaker, it is common to get push back. Push back sounds like this: Do you think you are better than us? Why are you making such a fuss? You are so over-sensitive. Why do you always have …
Trauma Through Omission
There can be trauma through what was DONE to you, being hit, shouted at, called names when growing up. And then there is trauma through omission, things that you should have experienced that you didn’t. Were your parents attuned to …
Birth Order Personalities
Have you ever wondered how your siblings can be so utterly different to you? One reason can be birth order and different children in the family using different strategies to get attention and love from your parents. Psychologist Walter Toman …
Things for Cycle Breakers To Remember About Family
For all the cycle breakers out there, this is for you. When you feel like you don’t belong in your family, you just feel somehow different, know that you are not alone. It’s okay to see patterns in your family …
How to Support Yourself as a ‘Cycle Breaker’
A cycle breaker in a family is someone who consciously chooses to develop different ways of communicating, interacting, living and thinking to their family of origin. This can start at a very young age, knowing early that you just think …
How Cycle Breakers Are Shamed in their family
Being a cycle breaker is often exhausting because it takes energy to stand up and do something different from what has always been done in the family. You might notice ‘looks’ being passed between members or eye-rolling as you express …
The Lost Art of Eating and Connecting
I grew up eating my dinner with a tray on my lap in front of the TV watching Neighbours (an Ozzie TV show that we LOVED in the UK with Kylie Minogue ????). We were together as a family, but …