Cultivating emotional intelligence and empathy in our children has been shown to contribute to more robust relationships, added depth of love, stronger friendships, better communication and collaboration and ability to connect to our common humanity. A powerful practice as a …
Tag: Emotions
Central To EQ Are The Abilities To…
The ability to perceive emotions is something we learn in childhood. When my son was about 9, he went through a phase of about two months where he would regularly ask me if I was feeling angry. He would say: …
Shame Is The Fear Of Disconnection
Shame is a painful emotion that is created because of a sense of failure to meet a certain standard. It sounds like: “I’m a failure, I’m a terrible person, I’m useless”. They are absolute statements about the self that make …
How to Identify Your Boundaries
Get into the habit of checking in with yourself regularly When we have grown up in a chaotic environment, we have learned to close down in different ways to stay safe. If there were few healthy boundaries growing up, it …
Attuned Parenting – Being With Children’s Feelings
When we lack attunement with our children, they will grow up to be adults who lack attunement with themselves. It is so easy to be dismissive when we are parenting. We are too busy, too distracted, to really stop and …
What Is Parentification?
Parentification is a potential form of neglect (Hooper, 2008). Parentification is the lack of boundaries within a family unit which means the children or a child, takes on duties and responsibilities that are usually the domain of adults (Boszormenyi-Nagy & Spark, …
Emotionally Immature Parents
When we have been raised by emotionally immature parents the tendency is to be either emotionally immature ourselves as adults, or to become parentified children and later over responsible adults. Let’s start with the emotionally immature parents. Your parents were …
Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
1 IN 4 AUSTRALIAN ADULTS HAVE COMPLEX TRAUMA. Complex trauma is different to single incident trauma. Someone who experiences single incident trauma and has to recover, is working on reconnecting with their internal resources and past ability to self-regulate. Someone …
Why Do I Feel Anxiety?
Feelings want to be understood and be in connection, when we stuff them down, that’s when problems arise, and we get surprised. We can get really creative about HOW we stuff them down. I might be overeating, overworking, or causing …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 8
“Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries.” CARL JUNG As children we are complete, whole and unique. As we become socialised by our parents, we learn that parts of …