Signs of Hyperarousal Most of the time, we live within what’s called our Window of Tolerance — a safe range of arousal where we feel grounded, present, and able to self-regulate. In this state, the reasoning part of our brain …
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The Window of Tolerance: Understanding Your Nervous System’s Comfort Zone
We don’t live within our Window of Tolerance all the time. When we’re inside the window, we feel grounded, present, and able to respond flexibly to what life throws at us. But when stress builds, we can tip into hyperarousal …
You Can’t Go Back After Two Weeks and Expect Them to Have Changed
Real change takes time, consistency, and a willingness to do the deep work. If the same patterns keep repeating, it’s a sign they may not be ready — or willing — to shift. Your job isn’t to wait and hope. …
Are You Betraying Yourself in Small Ways Every Day?
Little self-betrayals add up. Saying yes when you mean no. Pushing down your real needs. Forgetting to check in with yourself. We often think self-betrayal is only about the big moments. But it’s in the small choices where the patterns …
Feeling Stuck? Three Questions to Ask Yourself When You Can’t Let Go
You know that feeling when you desperately want to give something up, but you just can’t? We often feel stuck when different parts of us want different things. One part might want to give something up, while another part clings …
“Do You Love Me?” — When an Old Part of You Is Speaking
When you find yourself asking your partner again and again, “Do you love me?”, it’s not about being clingy or dramatic. Often, it’s an old part of you speaking. A younger part that once lived in uncertainty. A child who …
Self-Betrayal: Why You Learned to Disconnect from Your Needs
When you have grown up in an environment where your needs were not met or ignored, you learned to disconnect from them. As an adult, this has created one of two situations: When your needs as a child were not …
Differences in Relationships: Why Conflict Isn’t a Sign You’re With the Wrong Person
Every relationship will have differences. It is not the differences themselves that determine whether a relationship thrives or struggles; it is how we navigate them. When we approach differences with curiosity instead of defensiveness, we open the door to understanding. …
A Suicide Attempt Is Not ‘Attention Seeking’ — It Is Always a Cry for Help
“A suicide attempt is not ‘attention seeking behaviour’, it is ALWAYS a cry for help.” – Jennifer Nurick It can feel confronting to sit with someone who is feeling suicidal. We are holding their pain while also managing our own …
When You Can’t See How Far You’ve Come
When you’re in the middle of change, it can be hard to see how far you’ve come. The shifts might feel small, but over time they add up. Someone who meets you weekly can often see them more clearly than …