As a cycle breaker it is important to understand that most of the resistance to you being different and wanting to break away from the family is based in FEAR. The underlying habit for many family systems is to shame …
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How Cycle Breakers are Shamed in their Family
Being a cycle breaker is often exhausting because it takes energy to stand up and do something different to what has always been done in the family. You might notice ‘looks’ being passed between members, or eye rolling as you …
A ‘Cycle Breaker’ is Someone in your Family Who…
Generational patterns repeat through a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role. It is often not chosen by the person concerned. It is a deep …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 9 – Self-Reparenting
When we have been raised in an unhealthy environment, when we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence, as adults there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn …
Father Healing
Three years ago, my father died at 91 years old. I had the opportunity to be with him for a while about 4 weeks before he passed. As he laid in his bed getting weaker and weaker, and having a …
Trauma Integration For Children
Dealing with traumatic re-enactments. This one really stood out for me.Let’s think about it. An example:I grew up in a home where there was a lot of instability, shouting and violence. This is all I have known. In order to …