Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …
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Relationship Rituals to Help with Connection
Relationship rituals help with co-regulation. When you are in an intimate relationship with someone, your nervous systems will attune with one another, either creating co-regulation or dysregulation. When the connection is strong in the relationship, if one person is dysregulated, …
Love Language Tips for Long-Distance Relationships
Many of you have asked about long-distance relationships. It is not unusual for couples to have been separated by distance while actively trying to show love. When we are distant, there is an opportunity to be more intentional with our …
The Lost Art of Foraging
I grew up camping and fishing. I knew what a stinging nettled looked and felt like, I knew what plant to rub on a sting if I got one. I knew which berries I could eat and which ones would …
The Six Second Kiss Challenge
John Gottman calls it ‘a kiss with potential’. Think about your usual kisses. They are usually a ‘peck’ on the lips before you leave for work, or a quick kiss saying ‘hello’. Often your mind is already thinking about what …
Relationship Rituals To Help with Connection
Relationship rituals help with co-regulation. When you are in an intimate relationship with someone, your nervous systems will attune with one another. When connection is strong in the relationship, if one person is dysregulated, the other person’s nervous system will …
A Powerful Tool To Help Your Partner Connect
As with all suggestions, nothing works 100% of the time.When I feel triggered, I use this question with myself. I look at the facts and ask myself, “What does that mean to me?”Recently, I found myself feeling angry about the …
A Powerful Quote From Stephen Porges.
Trauma is so much more than psychological. Trauma is physiological too. I am so grateful to Stephen Porges and Bessel van Der Kolk for their work in bringing this to the forefront and increasing our understanding of the impact of …
5 Steps to Reality-Check your Relationship
Sometimes we need to reality-check our relationship. It is okay to want a relationship. Humans are social creatures, we are hard-wired for connection. But sometimes we can want it so badly that we ignore the red flags and we make …
4 Tips For Building Resilience
Resilience is “the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress” and can be developed by everyone. When thinking about resilience, it is best to think about it holistically. We are …