Leave a comment if you know where your critical inner voice came from. Here are some examples: The guy you are dating hasn’t called you back. The critical voice says, “Well, of course, he is not that interested. You …
Tag: Compassion
Compassionate Reflection of 2022
At this time of the year, I like to do what I call a ‘Compassionate Review’, a kind examination of the year that has been. Know that each year is different. If this year has been especially hard, know that …
What is Self-Acceptance?
Self-acceptance is a deep awareness of your strengths and weaknesses and a feeling of satisfaction despite past behaviours, choices and areas where you feel you are lacking. It is about embracing ALL parts of self and accepting self unconditionally.When we …
The Antidote to Shame
Shame is a painful emotion that is created because of a sense of failure to meet a certain standard. Shame says that we are flawed and unworthy of connection. In response to shame, people will isolate themselves or numb their …
Understanding Triggers
Imagine if your father was a large man and a violent drunk. It might be that whenever you see a man in the street with a similar figure and gait, your body freezes, and you start to panic. A trigger …
Compassion
If you listen long enough, most spiritual teachers will start to talk about the mind as having ‘seeds’. All the ‘seeds’ in the mind have different vibrations. There might be seeds of fear, seeds of self-criticism, seeds of boredom, and …
The Five Components of Compassion
Compassion is an orientation towards suffering. It is how we meet the suffering of others and our suffering. Recognising suffering Understanding the human experience of suffering as universal Emotionally connecting with the other person’s suffering Being able to tolerate uncomfortable …
Compassion is a Function of the Heart
One way to assist compassionate thinking is to imagine what you would want for yourself if you were in someone else’s shoes. Or to imagine what someone else might have gone through and how it might have left them feeling. …
One Way To Work With Your Critical Inner Voice
Did you grow up with critical parents? What were the comments that you heard? Did you get: You look fat in that Nobody cares if you are here or not You always make mistakes You are so clumsy You …