I’m guilty of worrying about my kids. In Western culture, worrying about our kids is part of the norm. But when does worry become too much? It’s too much when it feels overwhelming and all-consuming, when you can’t focus on …
Tag: Children
The Mixed Messages About Parental Worry
There are so many mixed messages about parental worry. I often hear parents say that they are worried about their children and then say “I know I’m not supposed to be worried. That’s not good for me, or the child”. …
Do You Worry Too Much About Your Children?
How do you know when your worry about a child has become excessive? A certain amount is usually considered normal, but when might it be detrimental to you or your child? Let’s tackle you first – if you find yourself …
What I Will Always Tell My Children
When you are a secure ‘home base’ for your kids, they always know they can come to you when things get rough. The more kids that have this kind of support, the better.If this is something you would like your …
Children Need Protection
As a trauma therapist, I can’t overemphasise how important protection is for our children. If you know your threat detector is too sensitive or not sensitive enough, check in with someone you trust. Let me know what you think in …
Managing a Parent’s Moods
Children should be free to be just that—children. They shouldn’t carry the weight of their parent’s emotions, learning to set aside their own feelings to maintain peace. This cycle teaches them to constantly read the room, striving to be the …
Personality According to Birth Order
Have you ever wondered how your siblings can be so utterly different to you? One reason can be birth order and different children in the family using different strategies to get attention and love from your parents. Psychologist Walter Toman …
Your Child’s Love Language in Action
Children need all five love languages. As a parent, you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. Of course, I do things for them and spend …
How to Speak your Child’s Love Language
Children need all five love languages. As a parent you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. I love words of affirmation and physical touch, so …
Teaching Children Empathy Increases their Emotional Intelligence
Cultivating emotional intelligence and empathy in our children has been shown to contribute to more robust relationships, added depth of love, stronger friendships, better communication and collaboration and ability to connect to our common humanity. A powerful practice as a …