If they’ve only ever known the version of you that walks on eggshells, careful and curated, then they’ve only seen a the watered-down version of you. It takes energy to be this smaller version, to keep the mask in place. …
Tag: acceptance
You Don’t Need Validation
Differentiating from your family of origin is a journey. When you come from a family with strong traditions and family norms, differentiating can be difficult, and there can be strong backlash. Backlash can sound like threatening to cut you out …
Practicing Radical Acceptance
Acceptance and compassion form one of the modules in my course ‘‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. In it, you will work through exactly HOW to move into more self-compassion and acceptance using research-based methods. Hopefully, I will meet you there. …
Feeling Shamed as a Family Cycle Breaker
There are often comments which, when boiled down, ask “why can’t you just be more like us?” When cycle breakers emerge, the resistance is usually overt AND covert. Overt in the things that are said to you, and covert in …
When We Excpect To Only Feel Happiness, We Set Ourselves Up To Fail.
Experiencing emotions is part of being human. When we expect to only feel the ‘positive’ emotions we set ourselves up to fail. Part of the work is to find a place of comfort with all of our emotions. It’s a …
When We Practice Radical Acceptance.
We can Stop Fighting What Is. This Frees Us Up to Choose the Next Step. Acceptance and compassion form one of the modules in my course ‘‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. In it, you will work through exactly HOW to move into …
Meeting the Inner Child
Meeting and working with your inner child is one of the things we will be doing in my upcoming course, Relationship Cycle Breaker, which launches in a few weeks. If you are interested in working on this with me, click …
How to Support Yourself as a ‘Cycle Breaker’
A cycle breaker in a family is someone who consciously chooses to develop different ways of communicating, interacting, living and thinking to their family of origin. This can start at a very young age, knowing early that you just think …
9 Tips to Manage the Silly Season Anxiety
Research shows that Christmas is one of the top 6 most stressful life events, up there with divorce and moving to a new house. This year we were planning to rent out our house from the 26th December. I knew …
Dark Night of the Soul
Fifteen years ago today, I married my best friend. It was, hands down, the hardest thing I have ever done. We came from different socioeconomic backgrounds, different cultures, different countries, but hardest of all, we came from different religions. We …