Can I hold BOTH the things I feel grief around AND the parts that made me happy? It is often difficult for the mind and body to hold BOTH, this is part of the work I do in therapy with …
The Six Second Kiss Challenge
John Gottman calls it ‘a kiss with potential’. Think about your usual kisses. They are usually a ‘peck’ on the lips before you leave for work, or a quick kiss saying ‘hello’. Often your mind is already thinking about what …
A Family Hike: Mt Kosciuszko
Mt Kosciuszko is Australia’s tallest mountain at 2,228 metres (7,310 ft) above sea level. We went to visit over a long weekend. I was surprised by how different Thredbo, the little town at the bottom of the mountain, felt from …
Relationship Rituals To Help with Connection
Relationship rituals help with co-regulation. When you are in an intimate relationship with someone, your nervous systems will attune with one another. When connection is strong in the relationship, if one person is dysregulated, the other person’s nervous system will …
A Powerful Tool To Help Your Partner Connect
As with all suggestions, nothing works 100% of the time.When I feel triggered, I use this question with myself. I look at the facts and ask myself, “What does that mean to me?”Recently, I found myself feeling angry about the …
Can Plastic Surgery Be A Form of Self-Love?
I’d love to hear what you think in the comments below.
What If It Was Never Your Fault
Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Take care of yourselves wherever you are. Love, Jen
Early Relationship
It is common to have many questions and no answers during this phase. Do they like me? How much do I like them? Are we compatible? Will I like their friends and family? What would my friends and family think …
If You Want To Improve The World, Start By Making Yourself And Others Feel Safe.
Imagine a world where we are each conscious of the level of felt safety in our body at any moment. Imagine a world where we can bring ourselves into a felt sense of safety (when it is appropriate and we …
What If It Was Never Your Fault
We can hold our parents’ capacity and history in mind and still wish that our childhood had been different. It’s okay to feel grief for your childhood and be grateful for certain aspects of it. The healing process is often …