We all have memories that get stuck. I had one of walking down the aisle on my wedding day. It wasn’t a big T trauma, but for me, it was traumatic, and I had a frozen memory of it that …
Being the Mother of a Creative Child
All children are naturally creative. I often feel too busy to be creative, and that way of being doesn’t move me towards health or self-fulfillment. Now, when Ariel shops to randomly write the first letter of her name in the …
Ways to build self trust
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …
11 Ways to Support Yourself as a ‘Cycle Breaker’
A cycle breaker in a family consciously chooses to develop different ways of communicating, interacting, living and thinking to their family of origin. This can start at a very young age, knowing early that you just think differently, or are …
8 Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful:
Wherever you are in your #healingjourney, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict …
10 Signs You Have a ‘Father Wound’
Much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father, it …
Reparenting
That voice is inside you. It IS you; it is the loving parent you can be to your inner child. Remember my rule: If you wouldn’t say it to a real son or daughter, don’t say it to yourself. This …
Day of Mourning
I allow myself to feel this grief—the pain of it all. Day of Mourning. Love Jen
Our Early Attachment Experience Forms the Template for our Future Relationships
When there has been a consistent, felt experience of safety and connection, a secure attachment forms, and when this has been missing, an insecure attachment is a result. As children, we create adaptive strategies to get our needs met. These …
We All Want To Parent Our Children In A Way That Feels Good
I love that this community has so many parents trying their very best. And I hear a lot of self-criticism and self-doubt as we try to meet our own or society’s parenting expectations. One of the most significant changes I …