John & Julie Gottman are two of the leading researchers in the field of relationships and marriage. They created a ‘Love Lab’, a fabricated apartment with a beautiful view and cameras to study couples who stayed overnight, as part of …
Karma as A Concept, Has Gained Popularity in The West Since The 60’s, What Is Karma and Is It Real?
Here are some of my musings about karma as an idea. I have been thinking about this a lot recently and would love to hear your thoughts. Disclaimer: I don’t have a feeling about whether it is good or bad, …
Five Top-Tips for Dealing with Closed-Minded People
I don’t really like the term ‘closed-minded people’ because I think some of the people we label as ‘closed-minded’ just have a different point of view to us. Test it out. Think of someone who you label as ‘closed-minded’. Do …
How to Understand Someone Else’s Point of View
When we take on the perspective of someone else, a whole network of brain regions become activated. The dorsomedial and dorsolateral prefrontal cortices, the temporoparietal junction and precuneus. These areas are responsible for memory, attention, social cognition, integration and mental …
Open Minded People
Being open-minded is generally thought of as a necessary quality to think critically. It helps us to see all the factors that might be affecting a situation. It is one of the factors that protects against dogmatism. Being open minded …
Affirmations for Your Inner Child During the Election
My undergraduate degree was a BA (Hons) in Political Science. I was an idealist! I saw all of the inequality in the world and wanted to understand why it was like that, and to be a force for good. The …
How To Emotionally Prepare For The Election
This is big. I have a number of clients, friends and family in the US who have needed to spend time debriefing their mixed emotions about the impending US election. It is NORMAL to feel confusion, greif and despair. It …
Some Journal Prompts for Healing Shame
When we experience shame, our gut reaction is usually to run as fast as we can in the other direction. In the moment, this might be the safest thing to do, but after the moment has passed it can be …
What Does Shame Sound Like?
It is easy to read posts about shame and think “Oh, I don’t feel any shame, that’s not in my life”. If that is the case, you are an incredibly rare individual. For most people, shame is part of life. …
How To Heal Shame
Shame is a painful emotion that is created because of a sense of failure to meet a certain standard. Shame says that we are flawed and unworthy of connection. In response to shame people will isolate themselves or numb their …