The term originated from the British writer Patrick Hamilton’s book and movie called Gas Light, in which the husband Gregory manipulates his loving wife, Paula to the point where she no longer trusts her perception of reality. In one scene, …
Category: Relationships
Peter Levine Quote
Humans have been working with trauma for eons. We have always been coping with wars, genocides, death, illness, and natural disaster. Overcoming these things builds resilience and grit. It is in our DNA to overcome and survive. Can trauma be …
When Your Mother Uses You For Emotional Support
As adults, we might find emotionally needy people repulsive and then criticise ourselves for feeling that repulsion. This can show up as we parents appropriately needy children. There might be part of us that wants to run away from their …
Cycle Breaker
Who are the CYCLE BREAKERS out there??? Generational patterns repeat through a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role, and it is often not chosen …
Being an Attuned ‘Enough’ Mother
Mothering in 2022 is no easy feat. We have to be attentive to our children but be careful not to smother them. Give them enough freedom, but make sure they are safe enough. So much that used to rest on …
Mother’s Day 2022
Two years ago on the eve of Mother’s Day I was called to write a workbook about the mother wound. It was something that is still a great resource, the SIX STEPS TO HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND, at the moment …
The Six Second Kiss Challenge
John Gottman calls it ‘a kiss with potential’. Think about your usual kisses. They are usually a ‘peck’ on the lips before you leave for work, or a quick kiss saying ‘hello’. Often your mind is already thinking about what …
A Powerful Tool To Help Your Partner Connect
As with all suggestions, nothing works 100% of the time.When I feel triggered, I use this question with myself. I look at the facts and ask myself, “What does that mean to me?”Recently, I found myself feeling angry about the …
What If It Was Never Your Fault
Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Take care of yourselves wherever you are. Love, Jen