Cycle breakers are often the black sheep of the family because they choose to focus on breaking toxic patterns internally and externally. It can be lonely, know that you are not alone and it IS worth it. You are busy …
Category: Relationships
The Most Beautiful Words on Earth
I think sometimes we can hear the words ‘I love you’ so often that they start to lose their true meaning. I do wonder about languages that have more nuanced words for ‘love’ if this would increase the meaningfulness in …
Real Validation
It is so easy to think we have heard our partner, when in fact we have been busy defending our position. We are often afraid that if we see things from their perspective, in a FELT way, we will not …
A Great Friendship
A great friendship is a gift. It is finding the people who resonate with us. Who seem to understand who we are. If you are looking for YOUR people, don’t give up. With 7.7 billion people in the world – …
The Qualities of ‘Great Friendships’
Truly great friendships are worth their weight in gold and stand the test of time. When I think of my ‘great friendships’, I think of my family of choice. I think about the natural connectedness of the ‘villages’ we lived …
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Friendships
What are the elements of a healthy friendship? Sometimes, it can be challenging to spot the warning signs when we are in a toxic friendship. We might feel that we are relying on that person for connection, validation or support. …
How SHAME Can Stop People Apologising:
Everyone has a different relationship with shame, depending mainly on how they were raised. Shame says, “I’m a terrible person”, and guilt says, “I did a terrible thing.” When you have DONE something wrong, you can repair it. When you …
4 Step Apology
This might sound like: “I’m sorry I didn’t call to let you know I would be late for the show. That was thoughtless of me. Next time I’ll be sure to let you know. Can you forgive me?” Remember, when …
Apologising
Please note that this doesn’t say, “I must apologise all the time to keep the peace.” Owning our part is powerful. Even if we only own a tiny part. Think back to the last time someone owned their part of …