A fawn response might lead us to have co-dependent relationships where we sacrifice our needs to maintain the relationship. What are the hallmarks of co-dependency? Saying yes, when you want to say no Having to hide parts of yourself to …
Category: Relationships
My Top Tip for Dating
let me know if you have already discovered that BEING YOURSELF in a relationship is the only way! This is tricky when we are used to changing who we are to receive love. When as children we have learned to …
I Stay Too Long In The Wrong Relationships
Most of us have been conditioned to ignore or block out our feelings and our bodies. Part of finding our way back to health and wholeness is through reconnecting with our thoughts and feelings in a healthy way. We can …
When you are a Cycle Breaker…
The more Cycle Breakers I meet, the more I hear this story. This feeling of not really belonging to your family of origin, of feeling innately different, like you are a completely different species. For a while, this often causes …
How We Meet On Each Level, If At All
If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, I wonder how that area could be energised in some way? How could you meet in that area differently? What …
Relationships are a Co-creation.
It is a fairytale to expect that love, desire and connection will be provided by our partner all of the time. That they will be able and willing to attend to us all of the time, to attune to us …
10 Tips for When You Feel “New Relationship Anxiety”
Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxiety when we step into vulnerability because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. …
How To Be Heard When You Feel Criticised
It can be SO difficult to actually listen to your partner when you are in the middle of an argument. All too often, we block ourselves from seeing their point of view because we feel we will be agreeing with …
How Close Can I Safely Get?
We all have a subconscious distance in a relationship that we are comfortable with. If we are further away than that distance, we won’t feel comfortable, or if we are closer than that distance, we won’t feel comfortable, and we …
Attachment Wounds CAN Come From Adult Relationships
Attachment wounds don’t only come from your childhood, they can also be formed in adulthood. Remember that attachment wounds are relational wounds. This means that they happened in a relationship with another person. When we are hurt deeply enough for …