If you value your relationship with your mother and she wants you to call daily, but you find it exhausting, what do you do? I like to look under the request to explore what is REALLY there. What is it …
Category: Relationships
Yearning for Deep Connection
Relational patterns can be difficult to shift. I find it is in the small moments of change that big shifts occur. If you would like to work on your relational patterns, you might enjoy my course, ‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. …
Awareness of repeating patterns
What is Your ‘Core Wound’? A core wound is caused by a painful experience, which shaped how you feel about yourself or the world. It then drives what you believe and how you behave. It impacts your life often without …
Awareness of Repeating Patterns
We have all been there, at that moment when you are doing precisely the same thing AGAIN. You are in pattern repeat, a cycle. For example, you are annoyed that your partner just spent a whole lot of the family …
Conflict in Relationships
Can you talk things through without one of you storming out? Can you communicate without shouting? Do you feel safe in the conflict? If not, do you feel unsafe physically? Why? Are you being threatened? Do they go to hit …
Feeling Unheard
I thought point 1 in yesterday’s post, ‘unrealistic relationship expectations: my partner should be able to read my mind’, was worth unpacking. It is often the case that we think we are making our needs clear when our partner has …
Unrealistic Expectations in Relationships
This can be a painful one because it can be a trigger from childhood if you felt misunderstood by your family. Your partner is not likely to understand all of your feelings all of the time. Maybe you don’t either! …
Are you able to ‘show up’ for someone else?
When we don’t ‘show up’ in our most intimate relationships, we limit the depth of connection that can be achieved. I think most of us want to ‘show up’, but we are held back. We are held back by: fear …
Not Everyone Has The Capacity to Show Up For You
Tough question:When you are feeling let down by someone, ask yourself this question, ‘do they have the capacity to show up for me in the way I need?’ If the answer is ‘no’, they can’t show up for me in …
Is It a Boundary or an Empathy Issue?
When you think about having had too much empathy in the past, has it really been a boundary issue? Let me know in the comments.