There are many subtle ways the cycle breaker is shamed in the family; I hope the list above is helpful in spotting some of the behaviours. A big thank you to my Instagram community for adding to this list.
As a cycle breaker, the best thing you can do for yourself is to get support from people outside of the family. If you have a supportive friendship group, that is wonderful, another option is to work with a therapist who can help you establish and maintain clear boundaries and unpack the family dynamics with you.
To all the cycle breakers going through this right now…I see you. You got this.