Let’s first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, and hopeful, as though anything is possible. When we are comparing ourselves to someone, there is a one …
Category: Psychotherapy
Yearning for Deep Connection
Relational patterns can be difficult to shift. I find it is in the small moments of change that big shifts occur. If you would like to work on your relational patterns, you might enjoy my course, ‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. …
Dark Night of the Soul
My Dark Night of the Soul happened in my mid 20’s, when I was forced to re-evaluate the core of my beliefs about the world, about society and who I was. I was also going through a values-based inner conflict …
Awareness of repeating patterns
What is Your ‘Core Wound’? A core wound is caused by a painful experience, which shaped how you feel about yourself or the world. It then drives what you believe and how you behave. It impacts your life often without …
Awareness of Repeating Patterns
We have all been there, at that moment when you are doing precisely the same thing AGAIN. You are in pattern repeat, a cycle. For example, you are annoyed that your partner just spent a whole lot of the family …
Tips for Cycle Breakers
For all the cycle breakers out there, this is for you. When you feel like you don’t belong in your family or you just feel somehow different, know that you are not alone. It’s okay to see patterns in your …
Conflict in Relationships
Can you talk things through without one of you storming out? Can you communicate without shouting? Do you feel safe in the conflict? If not, do you feel unsafe physically? Why? Are you being threatened? Do they go to hit …
Something to Ponder
What do you think about this? I’m curious to know. I came across this when I was studying for my Master’s Degree. I was drawn to it because I see these symptoms all the time in my clinic and have …
Feeling Unheard
I thought point 1 in yesterday’s post, ‘unrealistic relationship expectations: my partner should be able to read my mind’, was worth unpacking. It is often the case that we think we are making our needs clear when our partner has …