With time and focus, you CAN widen your window of tolerance. The key is being able to confront strong emotions without becoming so overwhelmed that they cannot be integrated. The safest way to do this is with the help of …
Category: Psychotherapy
Explaining the Window of Tolerance
Have you ever heard about the “Window of Tolerance”? Coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, it refers to the optimal zone where we handle life’s ups and downs most effectively. Inside this window, you can regulate your emotions smoothly, stay centered, …
Why Do I Have Another Avoidant Partner?
“You’re probably reading this because you are frustrated at yourself for choosing another unavailable partner—emotionally, locationally, or otherwise. Whatever the situation, here you are again with yet, wondering if it is you or just bad luck. People with an anxious …
Filtering The World
“Part of mothering seems to be filtering the world so it’s bearable, taking in toxins and pumping out oxygen like a tree.” - Anna Funder (Wifedom).
A Trauma-Informed Perspective
The call to adopt a ‘trauma-informed’ approach is growing louder as awareness of PTSD increases. Each year, approximately 8 million adults experience PTSD, making it highly likely that we will interact with someone with these symptoms. Understanding the potential underlying …
New Research Shows: Optimism Boosts Longevity
Fascinating new findings in the realm of longevity! “Optimism is Associated with Exceptional Longevity in Two Cohorts of Men and Women,” published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, highlights the powerful link between a positive outlook and …
Believe Actions, Not Words
Notice patterns of behaviour. They will tell you a lot about a person. Agree?
Emotional Neglect
Emotional neglect is sometimes normalised in families. It might have been in the name of being ‘rational’, ‘successful’, ‘wealthy’, ‘busy’, or not ‘spoiling’ the children. Often, the parents have not been taught the language of emotional attunement. They are simply …