It is very easy for anxiously attached people to judge themselves for their insecurity. Having grown up with a mother (or primary caregiver) who was not consistently available and attuned to their needs, these children learnt that they were not …
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Disorganised Attachment
This attachment style is a combination of the previous two (avoidant and ambivalent/anxious). Disorganised children give inconsistent responses in the presence of their primary caregiver (often the mother). They seem disoriented and confused. This is likely the result of inconsistent …
Secure Attachment – A Key to Having a Rewarding Relationship
When a child is securely attached, the child’s emotions are accurately reflected and validated by the primary caregiver (usually the mother). The mother is loving, supportive, attentive, understanding and able to help regulate the child’s emotions and help the world …
What Is Your Attachment Style?
Up until the age of two our brain is growing at a furious rate. The neurons are connecting, and the brain is being wired, literally. In the relationship with our primary care giver (usually the mother) we are being wired …
Why Attachment Matters
As children we are like sponges. Literally, our brain grows to 80% of its adult size by the time we are two! At times the neurons are growing at a rate of 250,000 every minute! The neurological pathways that will …
Research Proves Benefits of Gratitude
The word gratitude comes from the Latin gratia, meaning grace, or gratefulness. Its root is linked to kindness, beauty and giving (Emmons & Shelton, 2002). When I feel grateful, I can connect with the feeling of being more beautiful. I …
Signs of Emotional Exhaustion
We have all been there. When we feel like there is no more to give, to ourselves or anyone else. We are burnt out, and emotionally exhausted. When this happens for me, I know it is a big shout out …
Want More Self-Confidence?
A few months ago we did a survey of our female friends to find out whether they would like more self-confidence or courage. The results were 50 / 50. Everyone had a strong pull to one or the other, feeling …
Healing Trauma
Trauma comes from the Greek word for wound, relating to physical injury (1) . It wasn’t until the late 19th century that the word trauma became associated with psychological rather than physical harm. Austrian psychologist, Sigmund Freud was one of …