Dealing with traumatic re-enactments. This one really stood out for me.
Let’s think about it.
I grew up in a home where there was a lot of instability, shouting and violence. This is all I have known. In order to cope with this situation, I have developed coping mechanisms. Maybe I have learnt to make myself small and say yes to everything in order to stay safe.
As an adult violence feels ‘normal’, and it is ‘normal’ to be shouted at, it is normal to say yes to unreasonable requests. When there is too much quiet, I feel scared and do something to start a fight. This is how the trauma can be re-enacted.
If this resonates with you, know that these cycles CAN be broken. With work and focus, being in a safe space you CAN move through your traumatic re-enactments into mastery. One of the best ways to do this is with a Trauma Informed Therapist. Someone who will hold a loving space for your healing and integration. Where you can review your triggers and
patterns and form new ways of being in the world.