Imagine that your partner is criticising you.
What is your gut reaction?
For some, it is to shrink and hide. For others, it is to become defensive. Both of these responses are protective in some way, so they make sense.
Sometimes, we can develop a critical habit, and our partners can become defensive. There is work to do on both sides of the equation.
To do this work, I recommend couple therapy. I highly recommend Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) because it focuses on the attachment bond and the ‘fuel’ under the fire of behaviour. I have seen amazing things happen in EFT couple therapy.
In my couple work, I use EFT and IFS (Internal Family Systems), and this combination can powerfully strengthen the loving bonds between couples.
For one-on-one work, check out my link in the bio.
Have a great weekend,
Love, Jen
