As a couple therapist, I see many couples waiting too long to get help. On average, most struggling couples wait about 6 years before seeking couple therapy. This allows patterns of conflict, resentment, or emotional disconnection to become deeply ingrained.
Tag: Couples Therapy
Tips to Become Less Defensive
The four communication styles that have a negative impact on your relationships according to the Gottmans: Everyone will have a favoured method. Mine is defensiveness. Defensiveness is a response to criticism and tends to increase conflict because the other person …
6 Signs You Might Need Couple Therapy
If any of these sound familiar, couple therapy might be the next step to rebuilding or strengthening your bond. Don’t wait for a crisis—reaching out for help is a sign of strength! P.s. If you would like to do some …
Intimacy = Vulnerability
Sometimes, there is a good reason for this. Perhaps there have been some key events where you have felt unsupported by your partner or hurt by them. Perhaps your partner is sometimes an unsafe person. We can only move into …
Soothing Others
An additional struggle is that when your partner needs soothing, you are unsure how to give it. You might want to provide soothing support but miss the mark. This is common when you have not received it or feel it …
EFT Couple therapy
Breaking the Cycle: A Fresh Start in Therapy In every distressed relationship, there are patterns—sequences of behavior that continuously feed the conflict and distance between partners. Identifying these cycles is the crucial first step in therapy. When we recognize these …
What I Love About Working With Couples
I can’t describe the magic that happens in couple work when someone reveals something so tender and vulnerable and is met with heart-opening compassion and understanding. Even when the thing being shared doesn’t make sense or is illogical, both people …
Couple Conversations
Conversations with the people closest to us can sometimes be the most difficult. This structured approach can help you navigate your conversations with more empathy and understanding, fostering a stronger emotional connection, which can be the foundation of a secure …
Why Disorganised Partners Behave the Way They Do…
If you would like to know how to work with this as a couple, check out my book ‘Heal Your Anxious Attachment’. by Jennifer Nurick The second half of the book is about working with insecure attachment as a couple. …