We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict.
You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and then decide that that cycle stops with you.
Some cycles are easy to break. For example, you might have been raised by parents who smacked you when you misbehaved as a way of reprimanding you. You might decide to not repeat that pattern in your family and break that cycle.
Some cycles are more difficult to break, especially when they are socio-economic cycles. I find people like Michelle Obama incredibly inspiring when I think about breaking socio-economic barriers. It might be difficult, but it is possible.
Relational cycles in families can be the most challenging cycles to break because you come up against what might feel like ‘the establishment’ when trying to break them. With the example above, the rebellion is to heal your attachment wound and be a more attuned, loving mother than your mother was able to be for you.
How do we do this when we have an ingrained ‘avoidant’ attachment style?
We will be covering this and more in my upcoming course, ‘ Relationship Cycle Breaker‘. If you would like to ensure yourself a spot, click ‘here’ to find out more and join the other Cycle Breakers on this life-changing experience.
i am raised by a mother with mental health issues. i too have mental health issues. i think my father is also kind of emotionaly abusive.i am kind of an almost retarded person too. so from childhood itself i take care of my personal matters myself because i dont have any friends either bcause i dont know how to make a meaningful conversation with anybody. i dont want to be like my father or sister. they are like negative and toxic people. they are intelligent but not kind to those who are less than them or those who disagree with them. if you have any suggestions please feel free to share with me.
Family relationships can be incredibly tricky. Making sure you have the support you need is important. Perhaps finding someone safe to share with, like a therapist. Take care of yourself. Love, Jen