Tag: vulnerability

Blocks to Self-Awareness Two things that block INTERNAL self-awareness First - SELF-CRITICISM. When we are internally self-aware but immediately move into self-criticism, it becomes a painful experience that we may not want to repeat. This could sound like: "I’m aware I’m feeling angry about work, but I am taking it out on my partner. I'm a terrible person; I'll always be alone". Self-criticism blocks the self-awareness. The second thing that blocks INTERNAL self-awareness is the FEAR OF FEELING EMOTIONS. When we are internally self-aware and big, scary feelings come up that feel uncontrollable, we might think that it is safer not to look or only look for a second.

Blocks To Self-Awareness

September 9, 2024

True self-awareness takes courage. We have to be ready to look within and find things we don’t like and/or feel unable to change. Sometimes, self-awareness can feel like a punishing party. This is why I am a huge advocate for …

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“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.” Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quote

September 9, 2024

We meet vulnerability every time we do something new.  How much vulnerability did you feel today? That’s how courageous you are! Big love,  Jen

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Intimacy = vulnerability

Intimacy = Vulnerability

September 5, 2024

Sometimes, there is a good reason for this. Perhaps there have been some key events where you have felt unsupported by your partner or hurt by them. Perhaps your partner is sometimes an unsafe person.  We can only move into …

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Help your therapist

Help Your Therapist

April 30, 2024

Being in therapy is about forming a relationship based on trust and honesty. The relationship is a safe space to practice being vulnerable, honest and open. ⁣ If you know there is something big you want to share but don’t …

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“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.” Brene Brown

Vulnerability

December 19, 2023

Vulnerability is part of courage. We couldn’t be courageous if we didn’t experience some fear and feeling of vulnerability. Let me know if you need this today.

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Tips for Communicating Your Needs

Tips for Communicating Your Needs

March 20, 2023

Let me know if this resonates with you love Jen

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How Close Can I Safely Get?

September 7, 2021

We all have a subconscious distance in a relationship that we are comfortable with. If we are further away than that distance, we won’t feel comfortable, or if we are closer than that distance, we won’t feel comfortable, and we …

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I Find Myself Losing it When I Try to Communicate my Needs. Be gentle with yourself. When did you learn that you needed to ‘lose it’ to get your needs met? We all have a vulnerable part of us that has valid needs. That part of you needs to be tended to. It needs to be approached with love and gentleness to be heard and understood. You might do this with your inner child or through other inner work.

Communicating Needs Without Losing it.

May 20, 2021

When we ask for something, we risk being and feeling rejected. We are vulnerable. To cover that vulnerability, many of us will use anger or force.  How can I ask for what I need and hold onto the part of …

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t is Not Weak to Yearn For Deep Connection When connection hasn’t been safe, or you have felt rejected and unloved, you might find yourself pulling away from connection to protect your heart. You decide that you are safer alone. That people can come close, but not too close. You decide that it is safer to rely only on yourself. You become incredibly independent. You are praised for your level of independence. But inside you are lonely. You wonder why you haven't met the right person, why you feel blocked in your relationships. You desperately want to let someone in, but you are so afraid.

It is Not Weak to Yearn For Deep Connection

May 1, 2021

Relational patterns can be difficult to shift. I find it is in the small moments of change that big shifts occur. If you would like to work on your relational patterns, you might enjoy my upcoming course, ‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. …

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