So many of us grew up learning that love had to be earned by being “good,” quiet, helpful, or invisible.But true validation says: Have you ever experienced the healing power of being truly seen?
Tag: validation
You Don’t Have To Feel Broken To See A Therapist
One of the most potent times to visit a therapist is when I am aware of repeating cycles in my life. My therapist helps me clarify what impulses me to behave in certain ways and where those impulses have come …
I Get LOUDER To Be Noticed
If you want to hear more about anxious attachment behaviours, you can listen to my recent release, Ep 30 – Understanding Anxious Attachment Behaviours, on Apple Podcast, Spotify or through the PsychotherapyCentral.Health website. Enjoy! Xx Jen
You Don’t Need Validation
Differentiating from your family of origin is a journey. When you come from a family with strong traditions and family norms, differentiating can be difficult, and there can be strong backlash. Backlash can sound like threatening to cut you out …
Feel Like Whatever You Do is Wrong?
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness. In it you will learn: My gift to you, Love, Jen
Tips for Co-Regulation
Did you experience co-regulation as a child? What impact did that have on you? If you feel safe eto, let me know in the comments. Wherever you are, take care of yourself. Love, Jen
Core Childhood Needs
When attuned parents raise children, they develop a healthy attachment style of relating in intimate relationships. When a child’s needs are not met, the child will develop ‘early maladaptive schemas’ (EMS). This term is used in Schema Therapy, one of …
Statements of Self-Validation
HERE IS A QUICK ‘GO TO’ TILE FOR VALIDATING STATEMENTS. Keep these on your screen saver, print them, and put them next to your bed, where you brush your teeth. While we are changing our inner landscape, it takes a …
Tips for Self-Validation
Self-validation CAN be learnt. It is so important because validating ourselves re-connects us with our inner knowing and intuition. Self-validation is particularly important when growing up in an environment with mixed messages, where the adults around us have denied our …
Self-Validation
As a child, we look to our parents for validation about ourselves and the world around us. When we don’t receive that validation, it can be incredibly detrimental to our mental health as adults. It might sound like, “I heard …