As a trauma therapist, I’ve heard numerous stories about the messages people received in childhood that made them feel unimportant. Whether it was a sibling who demanded all of your parents’ time and energy, leaving little for you, or parents …
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Dr Alexandra Quote
When you have been betrayed, you have a natural scar from that experience. Many people would call that experience traumatic. It is traumatic because your person, who is supposed to have your back and be one of your best friends, …
Checking In
Ask each other, ‘How are you really doing? What’s on your mind?’ Listen with empathy, without rushing to solve or judge.” When do you do this as a couple?
Mastermind Course
Spend 10 hours with me and change the way you relate internally FOREVER! ‘Build Secure Attachment Mastermind’ If you want more connection in your intimate relationships and to break out of the repeating cycles of distress, this is for you! …
Birth Trauma
*Trigger warning for this one* It was difficult for me to speak about my birth trauma for a long time for a few reasons. Firstly, it felt ungrateful to acknowledge it. I had a baby. Who was I to complain …
A Tool For Repair
The added bonus with this is that your kids learn by example. When they see you have a re-do, they learn that they can and will make mistakes, and it really is okay because there is a way to repair …
Secure Attachment Grows in Small Moments
Every little look, every quiet word, every shared smile between you and your partner is a thread in the tapestry of your connection. It’s the daily, gentle moments that build a secure attachment, not just the grand declarations. In the …
You Don’t Have to be Fully Healed to Have a Fulfilling Relationship
Healing isn’t a prerequisite for love; it’s a journey you embark on together. You don’t have to be fully healed to find or nurture a fulfilling relationship. What matters is the commitment to grow, to learn, and to evolve as …
Seeing the Safer Parent Clearly
This is not about blaming the safer parent. This is about acknowledging a phase in the healing process where suddenly the rose-coloured glasses come off, and you see the safer parent for the human that they are. We need rose-coloured …
Managing a Parent’s Moods
Children should be free to be just that—children. They shouldn’t carry the weight of their parent’s emotions, learning to set aside their own feelings to maintain peace. This cycle teaches them to constantly read the room, striving to be the …