Today someone said, “Worrying is the worst way to use your imagination,” and that’s easily the best thing I’ve heard all week. Like most people, I have a part that worries. Worries about my kids, my work, the world… Sometimes …
Tag: SelfHealers
Your Youngest Wounds Don’t Have Words: Understanding Preverbal Parts
Your youngest wounds don’t have words. If something inside you feels overwhelmed… panicked… or desperately alone… it may not be your adult self reacting. Some of our deepest emotional wounds formed before we had language. Before we could explain what …
Sometimes Healing Is Helping a Younger Part Realise the Danger Has Passed
Today I had a strong somatic reaction that I couldn’t immediately make sense of. My heart was racing.My chest felt hot and tight.And although I knew I was activated, I didn’t understand why. The feeling stayed with me for about …
Why Many Avoidantly Attached People End Up Loving Therapy
Many avoidantly attached people end up loving therapy. Not because they suddenly want to talk about all their feelings. But because good therapy doesn’t force vulnerability. Many avoidant people grew up learning that depending on others felt unsafe, disappointing, overwhelming, …
The Most Powerful Words in Therapy: “That Makes Sense”
The most powerful words in therapy are often: “That makes sense.” Not because what happened was okay. Not because the behaviour should continue. But because when you understand why you feel, react, protect, withdraw, people-please, or overthink… You stop fighting …
What Actually Happens in Group Therapy?
A lot of people are curious about group therapy… but also a bit unsure what actually happens in the room. So I want to walk you through it. In the first session, we mostly do psychoeducation to make sure we …
When Love Meant Keeping the Peace
Many people learned that love meant: So they became: Not because they were weak… but because these strategies once protected connection. But healing often means learning: I can be honest, have needs, set boundaries, and still be loved. Secure relationships …
Healing Isn’t Always Dramatic
Healing isn’t always dramatic. Sometimes it’s just noticing… you don’t react the way you used to. The thing that once ruined your whole day now passes through you more gently. You pause before responding. You soothe yourself faster. You stop …
The Most Powerful Words in Therapy: “That Makes Sense”
The most powerful words in therapy: “That makes sense.” Not because what happened was okay. Not because the behaviour should continue. But because when you understand why you feel, react, protect, withdraw, people-please, or overthink… You stop fighting yourself. And …
Why Avoidantly Attached People Often End Up Loving Therapy
Many avoidantly attached people end up loving therapy. Not because they suddenly want to talk about all their feelings. But because good therapy doesn’t force vulnerability. Many avoidant people grew up learning that depending on others felt unsafe, disappointing, overwhelming, …