If you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment, you likely became hyper-aware of small shifts—watching for any sign that might trigger a reaction. You learned to do things perfectly to avoid being yelled at or punished, picking up on …
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Protest Behaviours and IFS
When you learn to work with your parts instead of against them, you stop reacting out of fear and start responding from your calm, confident Self. Healing takes time, but every moment of self-awareness moves you forward. To hear more …
Being in the Discomfort of a Conflict is Incredibly Difficult for the Anxiously Attached.
When a conflict occurs, most people with an anxious attachment style try to repair the conflict as quickly as possible to regain closeness. The problem is that it can be difficult to maintain boundaries when you let things slide to …
Apology in the Family
“As a therapist, I’ve noticed that people who grew up in families where no one apologized after disagreements and just let time pass often carry that experience into adulthood in unexpected ways. When conflict is ignored instead of addressed, it …
Don’t Wait 6 Years to Save Your Relationship
As a couple therapist, I see many couples waiting too long to get help. On average, most struggling couples wait about 6 years before seeking couple therapy. This allows patterns of conflict, resentment, or emotional disconnection to become deeply ingrained.
Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens
Do you notice these parts showing up in your relationships? Save this reel and check out the link in my bio on Instagram, ‘ATTACHMENT’ to learn more about healing protest behaviours. Wherever you are, take care today and be kind …
When You Protest – For The Anxiously Attached
Have you ever judged yourself for these reactions? I know I have.
Power Dynamics in Intimate Relationships
Power dynamics are an invisible force shaping every relationship. They determine who speaks up, who stays silent, and whose needs are prioritized. Unhealthy power dynamics can show up as one partner consistently having more control—whether it’s emotional, financial, or decision-making …
What Is Insecure Attachment?
Attachment patterns are patterns of love. They ask if we can trust others to love us in the way we need. If you want to know more, check out my highlight ‘ATTACHMENT’. Love, Jen