It is so easy to think we have heard our partner, when in fact we have been busy defending our position. We are often afraid that if we see things from their perspective, in a FELT way, we will not …
Tag: psychotherapy
Healing Is Not A Destination.
Most of us start the healing journey because we just want to feel better. That pesky stuff from our childhood that we put in the past to forge a new version of ourselves rears its head. We might push it …
The Oak Tree
Being an oak in a forest of firs is not easy. You know from an early age that you are different. It is not better or worse, being an oak. It just is. Learning to accept this body as it …
Cycle Breaker
When you are a cycle breaker, you can’t help but see the healing that needs to happen in your family. You clearly see the repeating patterns of pain and know that you can’t live that way. You know that the …
A Beautiful Quote from Yung Pueblo
Friendship is standing side-by-side and weathering the storm.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Friendships
What are the elements of a healthy friendship? Sometimes, it can be challenging to spot the warning signs when we are in a toxic friendship. We might feel that we are relying on that person for connection, validation or support. …
How SHAME Can Stop People Apologising:
Everyone has a different relationship with shame, depending mainly on how they were raised. Shame says, “I’m a terrible person”, and guilt says, “I did a terrible thing.” When you have DONE something wrong, you can repair it. When you …
4 Step Apology
This might sound like: “I’m sorry I didn’t call to let you know I would be late for the show. That was thoughtless of me. Next time I’ll be sure to let you know. Can you forgive me?” Remember, when …
Apologising
Please note that this doesn’t say, “I must apologise all the time to keep the peace.” Owning our part is powerful. Even if we only own a tiny part. Think back to the last time someone owned their part of …