When core needs go unmet, unhealthy coping mechanisms result. This is natural because a child needs to keep themselves safe and over time, learns how to get their needs met, however they can. For many people, having needs at all …
Tag: Needs
Core Childhood Needs
When attuned parents raise children, they develop a healthy attachment style of relating in intimate relationships. When a child’s needs are not met, the child will develop ‘early maladaptive schemas’ (EMS). This term is used in Schema Therapy, one of …
Being Assertive
Assertiveness is a skill that CAN be learnt. If you grew up in a home where assertiveness was not demonstrated, it might be more difficult to understand and have an intuitive feel for it, and that is normal. If you …
Tips for Being Assertive
TEXT The first step in being assertive is to know our needs. If we are uncertain about our needs, we will find others are too. We will find it challenging to communicate our needs, and when we do, we will …
Breaking Self-Betrayal Habits
Little self-betrayals become a habit. It is in the little moments where our natural reaction is to say yes, when the right answer for us is no. Self-betrayals happen when we don’t take the time and care required to check …
Self-Betrayal: Neglecting Your Needs
Being scared of your needs is NORMAL when you have grown up in an environment where it was not okay or safe to ask for your needs to be met. Know that you CAN shift this pattern. You CAN reconnect …
Self-Betrayal: Putting Others First
When we grow up with abusive or neglectful parents, we quickly learn to ignore our own needs. Maybe it is dangerous to express our needs, or when we do, they are ignored. The result is a deep disconnect from our …
What If It Was Never Your Fault
Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Take care of yourselves wherever you are. Love, Jen
Early Relationship
It is common to have many questions and no answers during this phase. Do they like me? How much do I like them? Are we compatible? Will I like their friends and family? What would my friends and family think …
What Do You Need Right Now?
Stop – check-in – what do you need right now? That’s your gift to yourself right now. Take care, Love, Jen