Tag: love

Where is Your Energy Going? Are you feeding the things that are meaningful to you? Is 95% of your energy going into work and only 5% going to things that are meaningful to you? Your family, your health and your spiritual life? How can you start to give more to what is meaningful to you?

Where is Your Energy Going?

June 16, 2021

At some point, many of us will find ourselves contemplating what is meaningful. What is life about for me? My time here is limited, so what would a meaningful life look like for me? Here are some things to ponder …

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3 Tips to Change How You argue

April 18, 2021

This video has some AMAZING tips to revolutionise the way you have conflict in your relationship

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Meeting the inner child

Meeting the Inner Child

April 8, 2021

Meeting and working with your inner child is one of the things we will be doing in my upcoming course, Relationship Cycle Breaker, which launches in a few weeks. If you are interested in working on this with me, click …

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Using the Five Love Languages on Valentine’s Day Words of Affirmation – Tell them what you love about them, give praise freely, thank them for things they do. Quality Time – Make time today for uninterrupted conversation Receiving Gifts – Thoughtful gifts, cards and flowers Acts of Service – Looking for ways to help your partner Physical Touch – Massage, hugs, kisses, hand-holding

Using the Five Love Languages on Valentine’s Day

February 16, 2021

We all feel love in different ways. It might be that you could spend hours and hours together, but if you were not touched, you would feel completely unloved. Or it might be that you could be hugged and kissed …

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How Can I Let My Partner Know I Love and Value Them? Tell them what you love about them Give praise freely Thank them for things they do and for being in your life Show appreciation Use active listening Make plans together Play together, go on adventures Make time for your partner Leave love notes, or send loving messages Support your partner Help them out when you can

How Can I Let My Partner Know I Love and Value Them?

February 16, 2021

All relationships need nurturing. I like to think of relationships like plants. If we leave a plant in sandy soil, give it too much sun and not enough water, it will quickly die. No two plants are the same. One …

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Know Your Partner’s World - Building ‘Love Maps’ Internal Psychological World Knowing the major events in your partner’s life How do they handle stress? What stresses are they facing now? What are they striving for? What makes them happy? What do they worry about? What ideologies are they aligned with? What are their key values? What are their love languages? External World Who does your partner enjoy spending time with? What do they enjoy doing? What is their favourite way to spend an evening? What frustrates them? Are they happy with their work / life balance? What is their ideal holiday?

Know Your Partner’s World: Building ‘Love Maps’

February 11, 2021

This is about knowing your partner’s world. It is difficult to really love someone that you don’t know. You might read this list and think, of course I know these things about my partner. That is great. But know that …

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The secret to relationship success A strong friendship. Know your partner’s love maps – Know your partner’s likes and dislikes, ask questions about their world, know what is going on for them Cultivate fondness and admiration – let them know what you love about them, give compliments freely and give praise and gratitude. Turn towards each other – when your partner makes a bid for connection, be sure to respond, make eye contact, be warm.

The Secret to Relationship Success: A Strong Friendship

February 11, 2021

When there is a strong friendship, repairs in the relationship work better. In the Gottman’s book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” (1999), they talk about the importance of repairs. In any relationship, we have to expect to have …

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Ideas for Managing In-LawsWork at having a unified front; your loyalty needs to be with your partner Remember, they might feel like they are losing their child, and control over their child Remember they have a different family culture to you, it’s not wrong, just different Communication as a couple, directly with them, not through a sibling or someone else Manage your expectations; they might not be able to live up to them Talk about the role you want your in-laws to have Have clear boundaries If there is an issue with a wife’s mother-in-law, her husband needs to step in to help and vice versa When two family cultures come together, some level of compromise on both sides is healthy

Ideas for Managing In-Laws

February 9, 2021

This is a personal one…for me, point 3, ‘manage your expectations’ was a huge learning with my in-laws. I grew up with basically six people in my family; my mum, dad, sister, nan, and grandad (my mother’s parents), and we …

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How to Identify YOUR Primary Love Language

How to Identify YOUR Primary Love Language

January 11, 2021

A few people have asked me how to discover their primary love language. A lot of people read through the list and think “I love ALL of those!”, why do I just need to choose one or two? In a …

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Five Tips for a Long-Distance Relationship

Five Tips for a Long-Distance Relationship

January 11, 2021

As a couple in a long-distance relationship, it is vital to have something to look forward to. Planning your next meeting during a pandemic might be difficult but set a date anyway. Make it a reasonable date, that could be …

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