If the Pain Was Deep, You Will Have to Let It Go Many Times
“If the pain was deep, you will have to let it go many times.” — Yung Pueblo Not because you’re going backwards, but because…
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You’re Not Acting Your Age When You’re Triggered
Have you ever reacted to something and afterwards thought, “Why did I act like that?” You knew your reaction didn’t fit the situation, but…
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You’re Not Broken: Why We Stay in Unhealthy Relationships
You don’t stay in unhealthy relationships because you’re broken. You stay because a younger part of you is still hoping for a different ending….
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5 Signs You’re Responding From an Old Wound, Not Your Adult Self
One of the clearest signs you’re responding from an old wound is that your reaction doesn’t seem to fit the situation in front of…
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When You’re Triggered, You’re Not Responding From Your Adult Self
One of the most important things to understand about trauma is that when we’re triggered, we’re often not responding from our adult self. We’re…
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The Biggest Mistake People Make in Healing
One of the biggest mistakes I see people make in healing is trying to get rid of the parts of themselves they don’t like….
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Memory Reconsolidation: Why Your Brain Can Still Heal
One of the most exciting discoveries in neuroscience is something called memory reconsolidation. For years, scientists believed that once an emotional memory was formed,…
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Sometimes Healing Is Helping a Younger Part Realise the Danger Has Passed
Today I had a strong somatic reaction that I couldn’t immediately make sense of. My heart was racing.My chest felt hot and tight.And although…
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The Angry Teenager: One of the Most Misunderstood Parts in Therapy
One of the most common parts I meet in therapy is the angry teenager. And often, people can’t stand that part and feel ashamed…
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Family Secrets: How Carrying a Secret That Wasn’t Yours Can Shape Your Childhood
Did you grow up carrying a secret that wasn’t yours? When a child is asked to hold an adult’s secret — like an affair…
