“It’s safer to pull back.” But: This isn’t the whole truth. It’s a protective part, trying to shield you from the potential hurt. Real healing happens when you get curious about this part, meet it with compassion, and show it …
Tag: Internal Family Systems
We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective
‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common …
Protest Behaviours and IFS
When you learn to work with your parts instead of against them, you stop reacting out of fear and start responding from your calm, confident Self. Healing takes time, but every moment of self-awareness moves you forward. To hear more …
Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens
Do you notice these parts showing up in your relationships? Save this reel and check out the link in my bio on Instagram, ‘ATTACHMENT’ to learn more about healing protest behaviours. Wherever you are, take care today and be kind …
Internal Family Systems Training
Assisting at the training was a corrective ‘family’ experience for me. In the group format, I saw people be heard, held, and accepted. I saw people feel safe enough to be deeply vulnerable. This is where the healing happens—so much …
The Neurobiological Impact of Trauma
This repository of emotion, felt sensations and memories go on to form what in IFS (Internal Family Systems) are called ‘parts’. Each part is frozen in time and space. So the traumatised 6-year-old will feel like they did when they …
Triggers Unpacked
“A trigger is when something happens and we have an emotional reaction that seems stronger than the situation calls for. Something has happened that has caused your internal alarm system to go off. This is a moment to be curious …
Suicidal Thoughts Through an IFS Lens
1 in 6 people have serious suicidal thoughts in Australia, with the “lifetime prevalence of suicidal thoughts ranging from 64% among cisgender men to 90% among non-binary participants and 91% among trans men.” (AIHW, 2023). Suicidal thoughts often cause a …
The Mono Mind
Do you resonate with this idea of multiplicity? Leave a comment if you do. If you are interested in learning more about Internal Family Systems (IFS), check out my podcast – Psychotherapy Central – Episodes 5-13 are all about IFS. …
What to Expect in Your First IFS Therapy Session
I explore what might happen in this episode in your first IFS therapy session. Although this will differ with every therapist, my aim here is to give you an overview of what might happen because sometimes we have scared parts …