Tag: intamacy

5 Ways to Increase Intimacy with your Avoidantly Attached Partner

5 Ways to Increase Intimacy with your Avoidantly Attached Partner

March 29, 2022

If you resonate with this attachment style, feel free to send a link to this post to your partner. The key with the avoidantly attached is to remember that when they pull back, they are often just as upset as …

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Can Conflict Become A Way For a Couple To Connect? What would it be like if: You started to use conflict as a way to connect more deeply? Instead of using the disagreement to move further apart, you chose to get curious? You saw the conflict as an opportunity to get to know one another more deeply? You took the time to really hear the other person’s view? You allowed yourself to feel empathy for them without fear of abandoning yourself? You allowed your heart to soften as you hear their frustration or pain You allowed the conflict to be an avenue through which you can know your partner more intimately? When in conflict, you could get curious about yourself and your partner? You could remember that we all have wounds; maybe you are feeling yours now and seeing theirs? Through conflict, you could hold space for one another’s wounds and imperfections without withdrawing?

Can Conflict Become A Way For a Couple To Connect?

March 29, 2021

Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …

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5 Tips for the 5 Stages of a Relationship

5 Tips for the 5 Stages of a Relationship

February 11, 2021

One common myth about great relationships is that there are no arguments or disagreements. The Gottman’s (fantastic relationship experts who have done lots of research in this area, disagree).  It is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship; the issue …

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