This video is in response to a lot of questions I get about recognising securely attached people. First, it IS challenging to recognise secure people when you have grown up in chaos. There is no template for what secure and …
Tag: healthy relationship
![You might be overly sensitive to your partner’s moods if you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/1-4-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Being Overly Sensitive to Your Partner’s Moods.
If you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment, you would have learned to watch for any little thing that might set them off. You learn to do things perfectly to avoid being shouted at or punished. You learn to …
![How do I ask for what I need?](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/01_07_2021_Communicating-Your-Needs-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Communicating Your Needs
How do I ask for what I need? The most important part is KNOWING what you need. Often, we are not really clear about what our needs are. They get mixed up in the jumble of what we DON’T want. …
![Signs I Am Healing In My Relationships I am less triggered, and when I am triggered, I work through it I find it easier to put myself in the other person’s shoes and be compassionate without abandoning myself I have clearer, healthier boundaries My self-worth is no longer tied to how much I do for others I know and can communicate my needs gently I don’t hold grudges for as long as I used to I find it easier to validate my partner’s feelings and know I don’t have to agree with them I find it easier to trust and feel safe in relationships My relationships are interdependent, not co-dependent I can self-soothe I find myself playing fewer games in my relationships I know I am loveable even if this is not being shown to me by others I experience more frequent, successful repairs](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/1-14-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Signs I Am Healing In My Relationships
Ram Dass says that relationships are one of the most challenging forms of yoga. When he says this, he is talking about the way you meet in an intimate relationship. You will see all of the parts of self when …
![How Do I Know If I Am ‘Showing Up?’](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/1-7-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How Do I Know If I Am ‘Showing Up?’
When we don’t ‘show up’ in our most intimate relationships, we limit the depth of connection that can be achieved. I think most of us want to ‘show up’, but we are held back. We are held back by: fear …
![Can Conflict Become A Way For a Couple To Connect? What would it be like if: You started to use conflict as a way to connect more deeply? Instead of using the disagreement to move further apart, you chose to get curious? You saw the conflict as an opportunity to get to know one another more deeply? You took the time to really hear the other person’s view? You allowed yourself to feel empathy for them without fear of abandoning yourself? You allowed your heart to soften as you hear their frustration or pain You allowed the conflict to be an avenue through which you can know your partner more intimately? When in conflict, you could get curious about yourself and your partner? You could remember that we all have wounds; maybe you are feeling yours now and seeing theirs? Through conflict, you could hold space for one another’s wounds and imperfections without withdrawing?](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/1-6-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Can Conflict Become A Way For a Couple To Connect?
Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …