Sometimes when I share that I’m upset about something, you get upset about me being upset. It starts to feel really confusing and I end up soothing you instead of myself. This often happens when you feel that you are …
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Soothing Others
An additional struggle is that when your partner needs soothing, you are unsure how to give it. You might want to provide soothing support but miss the mark. This is common when you have not received it or feel it …
10 Signs You Might Need Couple Therapy
If any of these sound familiar, couple therapy might be the next step to rebuilding or strengthening your bond. Don’t wait for a crisis—reaching out for help is a sign of strength! Love, Jen
Why I use EFT
In EFT, the therapist acts as the secure attachment figure for both people in the relationship and role models compassionate listening until the couple feels safe enough to use each other as that secure home base. The therapist guides each …
EFT Couple therapy
Breaking the Cycle: A Fresh Start in Therapy In every distressed relationship, there are patterns—sequences of behavior that continuously feed the conflict and distance between partners. Identifying these cycles is the crucial first step in therapy. When we recognize these …
Couples Who Lasted
In relationship we can often find our biggest source of comfort and refuge and sometimes our greatest source of pain. It takes effort and commitment to build a healthy relationship that is a refuge for both of you. What would …
What I Love About Working With Couples
I can’t describe the magic that happens in couple work when someone reveals something so tender and vulnerable and is met with heart-opening compassion and understanding. Even when the thing being shared doesn’t make sense or is illogical, both people …
Recording The Audio For “Healing Your Anxious Attachment”
I started the 5-day recording process today at a studio in North Sydney. After learning to speed read as a teenager, it is interesting to see how many words and letters I don’t see. My brain seems to sort them …
For The Millenials
“Maybe the real problem is that we're all trying to change others, but only a few of us are working on changing ourselves.” Sara Kubrick