As a cycle breaker, it is important to understand that most of the resistance to you being different and wanting to break away from the family is based in FEAR. The underlying habit for many family systems is to shame …
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Feeling Shamed as a Family Cycle Breaker
There are often comments which, when boiled down, ask “why can’t you just be more like us?” When cycle breakers emerge, the resistance is usually overt AND covert. Overt in the things that are said to you, and covert in …
A ‘Cycle Breaker’ is Someone Who …
Who are the CYCLE BREAKERS out there? Generational patterns repeat throughout a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role, and it is often not chosen …
Understanding Your Partner’s Love Language
If your partner received little quality time as children, this will be even more triggering for them. It can re-awaken deep feelings of being unloved and uncared for. You might find that their reaction is bigger than you would expect …
Contrasting Love Languages
Acts of service was not a love language I grew up with, so I find when people do things for me, I am grateful, but it doesn’t make me feel loved. It is just not a way I communicate love. …
Love Language Barriers
Do you crave them but then they make you feel uncomfortable? How were they given to you as a child? Do you crave time with your partner, but when you get it find you don’t enjoy the time you spend …
Retreat and Service In India
Image 1 – The Golden Temple – This temple has been built according to Vedic science to allow energy to converge and build inside it. It is a masterpiece, and I have never felt stronger energy anywhere else. Image 2 …
Accepting Words of Affirmation
When we have grown up receiving few affirmations from the people around us, it can be difficult to receive words of affirmation as an adult. You might find yourself feeling suspicious and wondering if you are being manipulated. This could …
Consequences of Unmet Childhood Needs
Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …
Missing Out on the Support You Need?
Can THIS person give me the support I need right now? If the answer is yes, great. If the answer is no, know that there can be many reasons why they cannot offer that support. Know that you deserve to …